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the currency of kindness
at angkor

girl with a balloonThree barefoot girls in skirts and short sleeves accosted us the moment our tuk-tuk pulled up to the posh toilets at Angkor Archaeological Park.  “Fan, one dollar, lady.  Fan?” “Bracelet, lady, bracelets?  Ten for one dollar, lady, ten for one dollar.  I give you good price.  See, beautiful bracelets.”  “Where you from, lady, where?”  “America?  I know America, lady.  Your capital is Washington, D.C.  The smallest state is Hawaii and Hawaii’s capital is Honolulu.  President is Barack Obama and his wife is Michelle and he has a dog named Bobo.” 

These children straddle irritation and resilience, repeating the same phrases to thousands throughout the day, unceasingly displaying cheap trinkets in the hopes that they may earn a dollar or two.  Yet, that day, in a place where tourism fills every crevice of the temples and commercialism suffocates authenticity, they transported us far from the desultory crowds with the power of conversation.

It began with a smile; then again, perhaps all good things in life begin with a smile.  “How did you learn about President Obama and America?”  “From school,” the girl in the long brown skirt responded.  “Where do you go to school?”  “That way, in Angkor,” she pointed vaguely to the east and described a school filled with other brown faces in white shirts and blue skirts. 

Three became eight and then twelve and then my head reached above a swarm of girls, each crowding around me to tell me about their schools, friends, ages, and favorite subjects.  The girl in the pink printed dress with dragging flowers and I shared that our favorite school subject was spelling and I sympathized with those who hated math.  Perhaps emboldened by these confidences, a twelve-year old girl with a runny nose, said indignantly, “Those men in that tuk-tuk over there said that they will not buy from us because we do not go to school.  We go to school.  We go to school every day but then we work on every Sunday because there is no school on Sunday.” 

Fifteen minutes after we first arrived, we climbed into the tuk-tuk.  The girl in the pink printed dress stopped me, placing her hand on my arm, and said to me, “You take this bracelet.  For free.”  When I laughed and tried to give it back, she said, “No.  You take this, for you, because you so friendly.  You are so friendly and nice with us.  You take this.” 

I gave these girls nothing tangible and only what were mine to freely give: conversation, smiles, and laughter.  In return, I received warmth and a bracelet.  In sight of Angkor Wat, a place where green bills carpet the ruins and adults willfully ignore the persistent youths, we had discovered an impenetrable truth: there is a currency out there accepted by all people that does not require troublesome exchange rates or ATM fees but exists solely within our own hearts.  

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Does this post resonate with you? Have you had similar experiences? How do these kind of everyday experiences compare with just visiting a major tourist sight?

This post has been entered into the Grantourismo-HomeAway travel writing competition for March.  

03/27/2010 10:54
i love this. the humanity of travel is revealed when we slow down, talk, and listen. thank you for this story!
03/27/2010 16:21
Nice. I like how you captured the non-native English used by the girls and how you really showed a connection with them where most people would strive to ignore them.
03/27/2010 19:03
This is such a beautiful post - I had a similar experience with the children in Angkor, once we pulled out a guitar the kids were incredibly eager to connect with us - it's all about be willing to take that extra moment to connect :-)
03/27/2010 20:42
This is such a great story! It'll make me think twice about how I deal with this situation when I'm in it next time. A little kindness goes a long way.
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03/27/2010 21:00
Loved reading your post! I entered the contest as well with a story from my trip to Cambodia. I very much remember the children at Angkor being exactly like you describe them! Thanks for sharing your story!
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03/28/2010 17:00
One of the best parts about traveling with our own children is how they immediately link us to other children--who are so much more open than adults (whether they're hawking wares or not). Thanks for this special glimpse.
03/28/2010 20:38
Lakshmi Sankar
Akila,
You described this episode to me during one of our many conversations on the Skype. But, your writing surpasses all that you told me. The vivid pictures that you have drawn with your words bring those children alive and they will forever remain in my heart. Mom
03/31/2010 11:32
Thanks all! It was an incredible experience and something that we will carry with us for years to come.

Lisa, we met the most amazing family while we were in Cambodia who travel with their three children, one of whom has Down's Syndrome. They told us the same thing: that their children quickly become friendly with the local children and they are promptly launched into the community. As Patrick and I find ourselves saying often, kids are kids wherever we go.
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04/07/2010 12:53
This is such a wonderful piece. I'm glad you had such an experience. More power to you!
04/13/2010 08:58
I absolutely loved reading this pos, what a beautiful subject, beautifully written. I look forward to reading more about your adventures.
04/20/2010 10:47
Thanks Lilia and Sarah!
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05/02/2010 06:33
Wow, that is a lovely tale, told well. You made my day, thanks :)
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05/04/2010 12:23
Thanks johnnyvagabond!
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05/11/2010 08:47
Charlotte
What a beautiful and moving post. :)
05/11/2010 10:53
Thanks Charlotte!
10/23/2010 11:23
Sharon
I will be going to Cambodia in a few weeks time. Your post has opened my heart.
02/13/2012 05:18
Absolutely love this post...these interactions come from the heart and cannot be learned... visiting angkor wat in august.. i will carry a bunch of balloons too.. :) :)
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02/15/2012 10:25
Let us know how it goes or whether you have any questions about our itinerary.
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02/15/2012 22:42
Sure and thanx . This blog is generally one of our first stops to gather info for our trips.. We were recently wondering if driving would be advisable in London and Britain.. and hey presto! there was an article on it here just then.... :) :)
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