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Mae Sot countryside

Mae Sot countryside

We went to Mae Sot with grand plans: we would stay in this border town for one night and then head to Umphang, an unspoiled wilderness area with numerous hill tribes.  We planned to hike to the highest waterfall in Thailand and find wild elephants.

Channa masala and roti at Borderline Tea Shop Mae Sot

Channa masala and roti at Borderline Tea Shop

It was when we sank down into the cushions at Borderline Tea Shop that we realized how tired we were.  I mean, we sat at the tea shop for three hours, refreshing ourselves with a deep green basil lime juice, a Burmese tea leaf salad that was so good we scraped up every last speck off the plate, and roti with channa masala.  We couldn’t figure out why we just kept sitting there, why we didn’t get up to go see the border, why we had no interest in finding the next temple, or crossing over to Burma.

Burmese Tea Leaf Salad

Burmese Tea Leaf salad at Borderline Tea Shop

 And, then, it finally hit us.  We had been traveling for four weeks straight without a break.  We had visited my family in India, seen temples while battling sickness, trained elephants, cooked a Thai feast, and found untouristed ruins.  We had walked through humble and cavernous Thai markets and eaten noodles, satays, and mango with sticky rice on so many street corners.  We had packed and repacked our bags every three days and maneuvered our way by buses, trains, planes, and boats.  We were exhausted.

Mae Sot border sign Bridge to Burma

Bridge to Burma

As it turns out, Mae Sot is a pretty good place to do nothing because there is nothing much to do.  The town, situated at the Burmese-Thai border, is a town on the brink of hesitation, not quite Burmese or Thai or Western, but filled with NGO workers, missionaries, Burmese refugees, and Thai citizens.  There are four tourist attractions and none present much charm after a stay in Chiang Mai or Lampang: the bridge that crosses over the border, a lively vegetable market, an uninspiring border market, and a giant reclining Buddha.  

Reclining Buddha at Mae Sot Reclining Buddha at Mae Sot

Reclining Buddha at Wat Don Kaeo

We needed those days spent underneath a magic box that spurts out frigid air, what others like to call air conditioning, and we refer to as bliss in the form of metal.  We went to our Burmese tea shop every day, meeting missionaries and NGO workers who were trying to make a difference, while we lazed about on the cushions and ate delicious salads for 30 baht ($1 USD) per meal.  We let a bit of guilt seep into us while we drank our basil lime juice and listened to the breathing of the stray dog who followed us around the city, eager to receive treats from Patrick’s generous hands. 

Nam Tok Mae Ya Pa

Nam Tok Mae Ya Pa

One morning, we rode to Taiksin Maharat National Park, twenty kilometers outside town, to see the nine-tiered waterfall Nam Tok Mae Ya Pa.  We couldn’t even find the impetus to walk up to the top of the waterfall and contented ourselves with lounging in the shade with our Coca-Colas and watching the Thai children splash in the small bathtubs carved by rocks.

Nam Tok Mae Ya Pa Nam Tok Mae Ya Pa

Playing on the waterfall

Three days was enough.  Mae Sot recharged us and we were ready to face the chaos, bustle, and gorgeousness of Bangkok.  It is a point that I think every long-term traveler reaches --- a breaking point of sorts where you just feel worn down and need to distance yourself from constant movement, people, and new things.  You have to know when you are burnt out, to stop and take a vacation from your journey, to let yourself watch movies, bask in cool air, play on the Internet, read books, and do all of those things that we do when we need to relax.

Fields outside Mae Sot

Fields outside Mae Sot

Sure, we regret not being able to hike in Umphang.  But, if we hadn’t taken that break, we would have turned our journey into a chore rather than the fun and exciting adventure it otherwise is.    

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We recommend avoiding the Bai Fern Guesthouse, where the bedsprings must have been trying to commit suicide by jumping out of the mattress because metal coils pierced my back all night long.  Instead, opt for the beautiful bungalows at the very popular Ban Thai Guesthouse or modern large rooms with air conditioning and free Wi-Fi at Phannu House for 500 baht/night ($18 USD).  We highly recommend making reservations before you get into town because missionaries and NGO workers fill the good guesthouses in town very quickly.  We had to visit four hotels before we found a spot at Bai Fern and then went to two hotels the next morning before we got our room at Phannu House. 

If you make it to Mae Sot, then you must eat at the Borderline Tea Shop, a store and restaurant that assists women from hill-tribe villages.  Every single thing we ate, from their tea leaf salad to their juices, was delicious and cheap and it was one of our favorite restaurants in Thailand.  The restaurant also has cooking classes for those with energy.

02/24/2010 05:04
Good, honest post. It is important to do nothing every now and then in order to be recharged for future adventures.
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02/24/2010 07:30
Very good point! It's what make travel wonderful because you can do what best for your travel style. There is no wrong way to travel. I'm glad you could recharge. :)
02/24/2010 21:54
I think that's the part I dislike most about my job: I'm usually in no place more than one week at a time, which doesn't allow for a whole lot of do nothing time. Jealous! But glad you're getting to do it--travel the world, as well as do nothing at the same time =)
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02/24/2010 22:36
My wife and I have had this same experience on our travels. We spent six weeks in Scotland and Spain almost four years ago, and we were constantly on the move. When we returned home, we entered a vegetative state as our bodies recuperated from the long haul. You're exactly right that if you don't rest the trip can feel like a chore.
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02/24/2010 23:27
I definitely agree that breaks are needed when traveling. My friends and I had been traveling for 2 months when we finally reached my friend's aunt house in Greece. It was a home where we finally slept in for once and just sat on the beach that was walking distance from the house.
02/25/2010 22:46
Seems everyone agrees with you, and I do too! It's a strange feeling to communicate to those NOT traveling though. I feel like a spoiled brat saying "I'm tired of seeing new things." But, without rest it's easy to miss the bigger picture and realize how lucky we are to be seeing all these amazing places. For us, we recharged in Chiang Mai, spending five nights there not doing too much.
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02/27/2010 05:36
Thanks Kyle, Amy, and Anil - pushing yourself through the fatigue just leads to a dull holiday.

Camels & Chocolate, I can definitely see how being on the move all the time would get quite tiring.

Keith and Joya, I know that when we get home we are going to take a break for at least a few days and do nothing more than hang out with our dogs and cook good food.

Asa, I know exactly what you mean. Sometimes, we do feel like spoiled brats because we have this amazing opportunity to see places and we feel like we are wasting our time. But, in the long run, we know that taking the break is very much worth it.
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03/09/2010 07:17
Just now catching up on my reading. This is a great post! We hit the wall when we got to KL on our trip and had the same exact feelings. We couldn't identify why we still didn't want to go and see. One afternoon we sat at a cafe and sipped beer just people watching. The following days were still low key, but in the end we realized it really gave us more energy to enjoy Ubud. The downtime was just what we needed.

Despite that there may not be a whole lot to see here you did a great job of capturing your rest place and making it appealing! The photos are beautiful.
06/06/2010 08:34
Oh, I loved this! Sometimes you really do gain the most when you take a deep breath and relax from being the super-tourist. Those are often the times you meet people, notice something about the city/culture/food that you'd missed... But mostly, I applaud anything that's in the spirit of making travel fun again. Like you said, it should never be a chore!
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07/23/2010 01:53
Wow, the food looks tasty and rich. Thailand always has great stuff for tourists and visitors to remember by.
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09/24/2010 07:11
I'm impressed with your ability to stick to being vegetarian in the most demanding of circumstances!
01/23/2011 18:31
The more I travel the more I realize the importance of rest. Pushing yourself through fatigue just leaves you with lackluster experiences. Better to rest up and make the most of things when the mind and body are fresh.
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02/03/2011 10:51
I completely understand that burnt-out feeling. I actually cut Cambodia from my RTW trip, because I just felt like dragging my feet around, staring at more temples wasn't respectful of the country. Instead, I plan to go someday when I can really appreciate what I experience. I am all about restful breaks on long trips!
02/03/2011 13:40
Julia, I think you're absolutely right. We cut a bunch of countries from our trip --- Egypt, Jordan, Malaysia, and Laos were all on the original itinerary --- because we needed more breaks and longer in each place.
06/21/2011 04:52
What a great headline! However, I would suggest this was not doing nothing, I would in fact go as far as saying you were learning more by doing little than sailing against the wind of life rush in your own country. The Thai family property and surrounding village, is a delight to behold. Equally, observing the Thail family undertaking their daily chores is an example of a simple life that is all but lost in western countries. Simple pleasures of doing nothing is worth more than I can described within comment! Lucky you!
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